After looking for a lifetime, they fell in love in moments
Published: May 28, 2005
“I spent 51 years looking for Lucinda,” says 52-year-old Rob Edwards. “I had about given up hope of ever finding her.”
Luckily, Lucinda found Rob on Match.com.
When Lucinda clicked on Rob’s profile in January 2004, the twice-divorced father of three had just canceled his membership to the online matchmaking service. He was glumly waiting out the remaining month of his subscription.
“I had been on a lot of first dates through Match.com. A couple of girls I dated for a month or two, but it didn’t matter if they were nice or pretty or smart because I was looking for Lucinda, and they couldn’t be her,” says Rob, who works in product safety at Schwing America, a manufacturer, and had been divorced for about five years.
Lucinda, divorced for 20 years, had spent many of those years raising her child and focusing on her career in guest relations at the Minnesota Zoo. After her son grew up, she turned her attention to her personal life. She had recently decided to change her search strategy on Match.com.
“I had dated about 10 different people, and I was having a great deal of fun, but there wasn’t a deep connection with anyone, which I found myself yearning for,” says Lucinda, 51.
“So I said, ‘I have to take control of this. I’m going to click on some people first instead of waiting for them to show interest in me.’ And so I did. I clicked on Rob. His picture is what drew me — he had a huge smile, and his posture was very open. I carry that picture in my wallet to this day.”
“I knew immediately she was who I had been searching for since I was born,” says Rob. “We spoke to each other in much deeper ways than words. I don’t know how to describe it. I knew before I met her that she was the one.
“In fact, before we had our first date, I told her I loved her,” says Rob. “And I was so sure at that time I could have asked her to marry me before I met her.”
“I said ‘I love you, too,’ ” says Lucinda. “It seems strange when I say this out loud, but it didn’t feel strange.”
A week after meeting online, Rob and Lucinda went on their first date, a night at the symphony.
“Oh, it was a fabulous first date,” says Lucinda.
“It hasn’t quite ended yet,” says Rob.
“I remember being so excited to finally be able to touch this person physically that I had already touched emotionally,” says Lucinda.
Their second date was a trip to Florida — Rob flew there on business and asked Lucinda to join him.
“The strange part was that it just seemed like we had known each other forever,” says Rob. “I don’t remember a time she wasn’t in my life. It’s just that I didn’t meet her for 51 years.”
On March 6, at dinner before another night at the symphony, Rob proposed.
“I barely remember the wording, but I remember the feeling,” says Lucinda. “The feeling was how lucky I am that a person of my age would find my perfect match.
“He’s not a perfect person, but he’s perfect for me. His strengths are my weaknesses; when I’m low he’s high; when I’m high he’s low; we have the same values about family and the importance of people over things; all the really important characteristics of sharing a life together, we were compatible on. We both know the rest of it is small stuff.”
Rob and Lucinda were married in a backyard ceremony on Sept. 18.
“I wore a traditional, long, beautiful, sparkly gown, and he wore a tux, and our kids walked us down an aisle of flowers,” says Lucinda. “When we shared the words we had written for each other, everyone was in tears.”
“It was about finding true love after searching your whole life,” says Rob. “I don’t know how to describe the feeling when I knew I could stop looking. Honestly, it was magic.”
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